In my heart-Sesshoumaru and Rin shrine

Seven/eight is also still an age of dependency, and children that age seek parental figures. Just because she didn’t have anyone looking after her (she had no choice) doesn’t mean she didn’t need one, seeing her condition and how dirty/raggedy she was, and how she later got killed, and couldn’t talk due to trauma. I don’t think she realized she could be harmed-she is an innocent child, like RT says, and I don’t think at that point she really knew how dangerous he was or anything, she shows no hint of fear whatever.

I agree with you about Rin’s position in the series, but how does that mean they can’t be father and daughter? Plenty of children play the same role for their parents, plenty of parents act the same way towards their children, especially fathers and daughters and daddy’s girls. Having children changes you, it’s an experience like no other. Rin doesn’t care for him that much in the beginning either, their introductory scene shows childlike affection to a creature in need, she probably would’ve done that for anyone. It isn’t until after he saves her that she really gets attached to him. And why can’t Tenseiga have told him to save her because it foresaw how good it would’ve been for him to develop a paternal relationship with her?

I disagree that parental love is decisive. You see, my adoptive parents didn’t choose me at first either. From what I hear, they didn’t even really look at me. I got attached to them first, and then after a while they started returning my affections, and later I was adopted. And Sesshomaru does make choices for her, when she gets kidnapped he foregoes his fight with Naraku to save her (albeit reluctantly because this was only a little bit after they met). He simply moved her to Kaede’s because his own lifestyle was too dangerous for her (as in her dying, you can see in the hell arc that he thinks “I should’ve left her in a human village”), and it’s better for her to learn to live with humans of her own kind-and though he’s not living with her, he’s still visiting her, providing for her clothes etc. That’s like saying sending your kids away to college/boarding school/finally on their own means you’re no longer a father. That’s not true. I remember that they actually spent three years together, and are still in contact/visiting at the end.

I don’t see Rin doing anything for him that I wouldn’t have done for my adoptive parents. I was very attached to them, I support them always, and I am outspoken and will not hesitate to speak my mind.

Her characters actually often do fit into stereotypes, such as Hot Headed Hero, Innocent/Cheerful/Ordinary Girl, lovable pervert etc. Common anime stereotypes.

I follow the manga. There was nothing about “when the time comes”. It was “…or whatever she chooses”.

I see you do realize it’s not canon, more “undefined” which is good. I kind of got the opposite vibe from your first post.

“Because he is your biological father… I would hope that things would remain platonic.”-But why would an adoptive father be any different? My own father didn’t raise me for very long (obviously), so how is this any different?

“That is the goal. So if you love your child more than your s/o/ husband/wife/whatever, you are teaching the child to not take their relationships seriously.”- I disagree. You should love both of them dearly, but your child still comes before anyone. Telling your child to respect your wife isn’t the same thing as placing your wife before your child, that’s teaching them respect for adults and respect for authority.

I never said a romantic relationship isn’t fulfilling, I said that it’s less fulfilling than something like, say, lifelong friends or a family. Which is true. Platonic relationships, because they don’t have the physical connotations to worry about, are purer in love/compassion than romantic love. Not to say that it’s impossible for someone’s romantic relationship to be stronger than their relationship with their family, it happens, but it’s rarer.

There’s a difference between meeting an older man as an adult and getting with a child/someone you knew since you were a child and has been your father figure. The first I have no problem with.

thanks for responding, I appreciate it.

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